I deal with life just like anyone else does, just that I don't take it too seriously. I am not perfect, but I choose to believe I am not imperfect. This coming from someone who has spent a good part of his life trying to come to terms with failures, makes a little sense. But then, as I said I am not perfect. Nor is anyone around me. I am proud, an egoist of sorts and I have absolutely no qualms in accepting that. I love life for what it does to me. I have failed often but that has never stopped me from committing the next mistake and fail again. I still move on.
Moving on simply comes from acceptance. I accept things for what they are. But acceptance by no means implies giving up. Acceptance for me is a form of denial, which is temporary and acceptable for a while. It is just that instead of thinking what it should have been, and then re-thinking what it should have been, it is easier and advisable to accept what exists. Rather than expressing resistance to situations, accepting them helps me think.
"Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” - Steve Jobs
Thinking is good. Overdoing, is not. Happens all the more when things aren't going the way we want. The "why me" question pops too frequently. Perspective of life is what needs to be changed over time. Just remember that every problem is temporary. This is definitely not the first and this most definitely is not the last of the ones that you would come across. You got over your problems once and you can do it again and again. So come what may, it is good to get over obsessive thinking and yes! the "why me" question better best be avoided. The question you should be asking is "why the hell not?"
Just be in the present. Life takes care of itself. Worrying about the future doesn't help. Thinking about the past never has. So live this moment. It is not going to come back. The more you take responsibility for your past and present, the more you are able to create the future you seek.
Most important of all is, Learn. Always choose to expand rather than contract after every problem that you come across. Some times it may not be the most appreciated option by one self, but then it sure is the best way.
Life for me has no place for destiny, fate and things like that. I believe in choices. Choices that we make. So many times I've been asked why am I like this? Well, I am like this :) And I totally love for whatever there is :P
Moving on simply comes from acceptance. I accept things for what they are. But acceptance by no means implies giving up. Acceptance for me is a form of denial, which is temporary and acceptable for a while. It is just that instead of thinking what it should have been, and then re-thinking what it should have been, it is easier and advisable to accept what exists. Rather than expressing resistance to situations, accepting them helps me think.
"Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” - Steve Jobs
Thinking is good. Overdoing, is not. Happens all the more when things aren't going the way we want. The "why me" question pops too frequently. Perspective of life is what needs to be changed over time. Just remember that every problem is temporary. This is definitely not the first and this most definitely is not the last of the ones that you would come across. You got over your problems once and you can do it again and again. So come what may, it is good to get over obsessive thinking and yes! the "why me" question better best be avoided. The question you should be asking is "why the hell not?"
Just be in the present. Life takes care of itself. Worrying about the future doesn't help. Thinking about the past never has. So live this moment. It is not going to come back. The more you take responsibility for your past and present, the more you are able to create the future you seek.
Most important of all is, Learn. Always choose to expand rather than contract after every problem that you come across. Some times it may not be the most appreciated option by one self, but then it sure is the best way.
Life for me has no place for destiny, fate and things like that. I believe in choices. Choices that we make. So many times I've been asked why am I like this? Well, I am like this :) And I totally love for whatever there is :P
I can't accept some of your views. obviously it's your life as you know. But i took responsibility of my past & present, that made my life better.
ReplyDeletei too accept with the above comment
ReplyDeletegood kosuhik,great to see so many thoughts...
ReplyDeleteGood post.. I specially liked these lines - I accept things for what they are. But acceptance by no means implies giving up. Acceptance for me is a form of denial, which is temporary and acceptable for a while.
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